I always fall for your type

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I've heard multiple times that women date/marry men that have similar personalities as their fathers. I'm not sure if this has been studied or if there are any statistics on it, but I agree. Especially because I fit this description to a tee.

Let me explain I don't go on the hunt for men that remind me of my father, and not all the men I like are like my father but looking back on my past many of the guys I've taken seriously have been very much like my father. Now I want to make clear that I love my father TO DEATH, I was a total daddies girl as a kid but with that being said I don't approve of my father's ways in relationships. Why then, you ask, am I attracted to men who are like him? Well as I said before I don't do it purposely and I'm not always immediately aware that these guys are like my father. When I say I don't approve of my fathers ways in relationships I mean his habits and the way he handles situations.and also his personality.

For example, my father has the habit of feeling like his way of thinking is the most logical and therefore the only way to think. He doesn't do this all the time but when he does think this way he becomes critical of his partner, my mother in the past and my step mother currently. I hate this because I have the ability to view a situation from all sides so my feelings towards any situation or subject is ever changing and usually made up of multiple points of views. I also hate to be criticized just for the simple fact that it makes me feel like absolute CRAP. For the most part though I just don't want to deal with an individual that cannot be objective it annoys me. There is just something about this way of thinking that makes me feel like he's being controlling which is a major negative in a relationship.

As far as my fathers personality is concerned there are pros and cons. On some level I really admire my fathers personality being introverted I've always wanted to break out of my shell and and be social, my father does this effortlessly. I think its important to be social but on the negative side my father talks ... a lot. He seems to always have a story to tell and sometimes its the same stories over and over again. I find this trait to be OBNOXIOUS and over time I condition myself to half listen to this annoyance.

Funny enough though some of the guys I've been attracted too in the past, and even my current boyfriend, holds these exact same traits. Why? Is it because I unconsciously select men that are similar to my father, because I admire their extroverted personalities or because their good qualities over ride these negative traits.

QUESTION: If my boyfriend has qualities that I don't like and I know that I hate those qualities , should I doubt my relationship?

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